Therapeutic Modalities

AASECT Certified Sex Therapy

Gottman Level 1 Couples Therapy (The Gottman Institute)

Certified Integrated Intimacy Provider (The Northwest Institute On Intimacy)

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (The Linehan Institute-Behavioral Tech)

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (Mindfulness-based/MBCT)

EMDR Level 1 (The EMDR Institute)

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Restraint is hot 🔥 Cuffs, ropes, binders, blindfolds... (insert imagination here)…. restraint is filled with possibilities. ⁣ ⁣ “Always start by discussing what you both like, what you both don’t like, physical or mental health considerations, safe words (or other ways to stop the scene) and what anyone might require for aftercare. Safety is important, and so is having fun.⁣ ⁣ In all cases, make sure the restraints or your grip isn’t too tight and avoid joints – for example, if you’re holding someone’s arms behind their back, grip their lower forearms rather than their wrists. Do not restrain someone by the neck. Check circulation by looking for skin that may turn blue or white, and ask (or order) your activity partner to tell you if they start to feel pins and needles. Also make sure you can release them quickly, either by practicing undoing the restraints or by keeping a pair of flat bandage scissors on hand for rope play.” -@autostraddle⁣ ⁣ Remember, please keep your play safe, sane, and consensual. ⁣ ⁣ For more information on bondage and restraints, as well as 5 ways to practice it safely, check out the link in my profile for @autostraddle’s 𝘉𝘦𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘳’𝘴 𝘎𝘶𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘉𝘰𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘨𝘦. ⁣ ⁣ ⁣Art from @12th.ofnever ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣⁣ #queer #pride #passion #passionate #lust #dom #kink #bdsm #bdsmkink #gay #trans #genderfluid #pansexual #sexed #therapy #explore #kinkpositive #empowerment #safesex #lineart #sexy #seattle #therapist #lesbian #🔥 ⁣⁣
Kudos to this beautiful couple @ashhardell and @grayhardell. These badass boundary pushers are helping smash stigmas, educate and empower others to live authentically through their YouTube channels. Their videos touch on everything from top surgery, puppy play, gender identity and everything in between. Head to the link in my bio to check them out! ⁣ ⁣ Swipe to the left to see their original photo 💕⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣⁣ #queer #pride #passion #passionate ⁣#nonbinary #transgender #identity #gay #lesbian #womenempowerment #human #love #couplegoals #lovewins #lgbtq #youtube #vlog #topsurgery #tranformation
In BDSM, a 𝘛𝘰𝘱 is a person who is essentially giving/providing sensation to another individual. Such actions include tying up, slapping, flogging, teasing, penetrating, etc. Tops are not necessarily 𝘋𝘰𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘴 but can be if there is a power exchange involved.⁣ ⁣ The term 𝘣𝘰𝘵𝘵𝘰𝘮 is used to describe the person to whom an action is done. They are on the receiving end of the BDSM play. A bottom is not necessarily a 𝘴𝘶𝘣𝘮𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘷𝘦 but can be when power exchange is involved. ⁣ ⁣ A 𝘚𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘤𝘩 is the term used to describe folks who enjoy engaging in both Dominant and submissive roles, or both Topping and bottoming. A Switch’s preferences may depend on partners, scenes, life circumstances, mood, etc.⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣⁣ #queer #pride #passion #passionate ⁣⁣#bdsm #sexeducation #sexpositive #dom #sub #instagram #genderfluid #womenempowerment #kink #kinkcommunity #switch #gay #lesbian #lgbtq🌈
What is your definition of sex?⁣ ⁣ Does your own concept of sex mean penetration? ⁣ Does it always lead to orgasm? ⁣ Is sex any activity that elicits pleasure? ⁣ Does sex have to involve genitals? ⁣ Or is sex any type of intimate or erotic touch? ⁣ Is your definition of sex inclusive? ⁣ Can you have sex solo? ⁣ Or does it involve a plus one, or a plus two? ⁣ ⁣ Exploring sex outside the gender binary is one of my favorite topics to traverse with clients. Check out the link in my bio for an excellent article called 3 Keys to Having Good Sex Beyond the Binary by @mayagittelman⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ Drawing by @cupofyou⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣⁣ #queer #pride #passion #passionate ⁣ #masturbation #sexualhealing #realtalk #vibrators #instamood #sexpositive #sexeducation #radicalselflove #intimacy #pleasure #sexeducation #sexualwellness #therapy #sex #LGBTQ #womenempowerment #transgender #queer #gay #lesbian #womenlikeus #lube #selfcare #nonbinary #genderfluid
Hello Instagram! First of all, welcome to anyone who is new. I’m so glad you’re here! Second, I want to thank you for your ongoing support, love, and contributions to this page. Your insight, questions, and courageous vulnerability keep our mission alive. I’d like to take some time to connect by filling you in on a few promised personal updates. I am a Type 1 Diabetic. Because I live with invisible disabilities, I am a huge proponent for self care. Taking care of my mind, body, relationships, and soul is essential to how I do life because I want to remain healthy and happy. ⁣ ⁣ Climbing mountains (especially glaciers) is a way I practice self-care. Mountaineering challenges all parts of me. It offers me the experiences of facing and overcoming fears that I often could not have anticipated. In nature I experience connection with my personal understanding of spirituality. ⁣ ⁣ A while ago I shared my plan to summit Mount Rainier. This summer I actually made two summit bids and I’m grateful to say that both were successful ❤️⁣ ⁣ One summit was with my friend @dapperthacher who is also a Type 1 Diabetic and also Queer. We hugged at the summit, celebrating being a minority of a minority of a minority in the climbing community. We took a photo with Thacher’s #rileylink and a sign that said #fuckdiabetes. ⁣ It was very us and I’ll cherish that experience forever. ⁣ ⁣ I’ve summited Lady #Rainier three times total. On each climb I felt anxiety and doubt; I felt gratitude and utter exhilaration. ⁣ I pushed through low blood sugars, fatigue, dehydration, and exhaustion. At certain points, my legs begged me to stop but determination kept me going. ⁣ I faced fears and I conquered them. ⁣ And, I cannot wait to do it again.⁣ ⁣ The current plan is to attempt a third Summer of 2019 Mount Rainier summit, this time with @project50in50. ⁣ ⁣ All of us lovers of mountains and adventure.⁣ All of us determined. ⁣ All of us T1Ds. ⁣ ⁣ Please send us good vibes. I can’t wait for what is to come ❤️⁣ ⁣ ~Mia ⁣ ⁣ Photo by: @erekwest ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #stronger #strongertogether #type1diabetes #wearenotwaiting #dexcom #power #queer #community #mountaineering
Gahhhhhh I love this feeling! ⁣ ⁣ @drlizpowel’s definition in her book 𝘉𝘶𝘪𝘭𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘖𝘱𝘦𝘯 𝘙𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴 is spot on. Liz defines NRE as, “the cascade of chemicals, feelings, and urges one experiences when building a new relationship”. In monogamous relationships, NRE is often called “the honeymoon phase” and can last between six months to a few years. ⁣ ⁣ What makes NRE so uniquely pleasurable is the rush of chemicals, particularly oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin, that flood our bodies. Along with the relational excitement of getting to know a new person we’re hot for, these natural chemicals contribute to the intoxication of NRE which can literally impair our thinking. ⁣ ⁣ I’m shamelessly plugging Liz’s book not only because 𝘉𝘶𝘪𝘭𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘖𝘱𝘦𝘯 𝘙𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴 so beautifully conceptualizes the feel good elements as well as the cons of NRE, but it offers practical tools for problem solving for when those NRE butterflies swarm out of control. ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ #queer #pride #passion #passionate ⁣⁣#intimacy #polyamorous #polyamory #lust #love #butterflies #energy #lgbtq🌈 #womenempowerment #relationshipgoals #sexeducation #open #transgender #lesbian #electric #therapy #seattle #feelings
While this poem may read *women*, it reads *Queer* to me. It reads LGBTQ+ to me. May it read whatever you need it to read to you. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Especially with Pride’s poignant reminder of Stonewall, this has been on my mind. I’m reminded of all who came before us to pave the way for the basic human rights we have today. And then I’m reminded that racism, homophobia, transphobia, hate, and oppression are pandemic in our society, and those basic human rights that we once tasted are now threatened to their core. As a petite, white, cis-gendered, “hetero-passing” woman in the relatively-liberal city of Seattle, my Queerness doesn’t overtly challenge possible perception of heteronormativity and it sure as hell doesn’t bind me. I can tuck my magenta hair up in a bun, my tattoos covered by clothes, my introverted self a natural protection of my partners’ anonymity. I’m safe, for now. But, are you? But, are they?⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Last night #laurajacobs said to me, “we are in a time where so many would like to see LGBTQ people returned to the closets, if not the concentration camps, queer sex is an act of resistance.” They could not be more correct. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I stand on the sacrifices of a million Queer people before me. ⁣⁣ I stand alongside my Queer friends and community, my Queer comrades, family, and peers. And, what can I do as I stand?⁣⁣ I can be a safe space for those around me. ⁣⁣ I can stand up to homophobia, racism, transphobia, and oppression. ⁣⁣ I can question the systems I participate in. ⁣⁣ I can support the organizations on the front lines of social justice. ⁣⁣ And, I can listen.⁣⁣ I can try my fucking hardest to show up in the best way I know how in a world with people who want to erase people like me and people like you. ⁣⁣ Each day utilizing my privilege, power, and platform to make the mountain taller so that people after me can see farther. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Many of us walk around every day carrying invisible weights on our shoulders. And we don’t have to be alone in this. And we don’t have to remain silent. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ~Mia⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ #queer #pride #passion #passionate #womenempowerment #strongertogether #gay #transgender #lesbian #they #seattle #selflove #selfcare #youareenough
Nothing kills desire more than obligation.⁣ ⁣ Last week a friend shared with me that she had been given advice by someone she trusted to have sex with her partner even though she didn’t want to. My friend was told, “Just do it because you owe it to him”. FUCK THAT!⁣ ⁣ I am going to write this loud and clear: 𝐃𝐎 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐇𝐀𝐕𝐄 𝐒𝐄𝐗 𝗪𝐈𝐓𝐇 𝐀𝐍𝐘𝐎𝐍𝐄 𝐈𝐅 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐃𝐎 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝗪𝐀𝐍𝐓 𝐓𝐎! You do not owe anyone access to your body, at any time, any place, for any reason, without your FULL ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT. Even if he’s your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner, even if it’s been a really long time, even if it’s a holiday, even if they threaten to fucking leave you. If you’re not feeling it, don’t do it! ⁣ ⁣ You have autonomy over your body and you have the agency to do with it what you want to do with it. ⁣ ⁣ When we have sex out of obligation it teaches our body that it can’t trust us. Obligatory sex denies us information that is critical to the development of our self-worth and understanding. There are a ton of reasons that influence why we might not be feeling desire but if we “push through and just do it”, it robs us access to that essential information about what is really going on. ⁣ ⁣ Nothing kills desire more than obligation, my friends. ⁣ ⁣ Listen to your body. Listen to your intuition. Listen to your heart. Listen to your beautiful soul. ⁣ ⁣ ~Mia⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ Photo: @upsplash⁣ ⁣ #consent #desire #yourbody #yourchoice #fuckobligation #autonomy #agency #selflove⁣ #sextherapy #sextherapist #passion #passionate ⁣⁣#choice #empoweringwomen #empowerment #mybodymychoice #radicalselflove #selfcare #womenempowerment
This might be my favorite equation of all time 🔥⁣ ⁣ I found “The Erotic Equation” in the book The Erotic Mind by Jack Morin. In romantic and sexual relationships, attraction ignited by curiosity and the challenge of overcoming an obstacle results in excitement. ⁣ ⁣ Obstacles are unique and variable. In long-term sexual relationships, the essence of obstacles is that they change over time. Obstacles do not equate to drama; instead they can be the push-pull of flirtation, an erotic tension that you can play with, the mysterious adventure of lost and found. ⁣ ⁣ Eroticism by nature is paradoxical: it is both joyful and dangerous; it is life-giving and it is troublesome; it is intimate and it is passionate. Eroticism is connected to many aspects of the human existence. As @esterperel so beautifully says, fire needs oxygen. ⁣ ⁣ I invite you to consider, what are some fun, sexy, and erotic obstacles that exist in your relationships? What obstacles could you create as oxygen to ignite the fire? ⁣ ⁣ ~Mia ⁣ ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ ⁣ #passion #passionate #intimate #therapy #lgbtq #gay #transgender #love #kink #fire #lesbian #queer #radicalselflove #attraction #loveatfirstsight #seattle
—𝐄𝐝𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠—⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ is the intentional practice of delaying and controlling orgasm. It’s arousing yourself or another to the “edge” of climax.⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Why might we want to delay orgasm? Edging can intensify the pleasurable experience of orgasm. It can also assist with performance anxiety and orgasm control over ejaculation and/or orgasms that occur earlier than desired (premature ejaculation).⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ You can practice edging solo, with a partner, or with multiple partners.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ So, how do we practice edging solo? Thank you @healthline for articulating this process beautifully: ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ 1) 𝐌𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐞𝐧𝐯𝐢𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐥. Lock the doors, turn down the lights, put on some music, use an oil diffuser for atmosphere, and so on.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ 2) 𝐆𝐞𝐭 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐩𝐡𝐲𝐬𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐦𝐨𝐨𝐝. Close your eyes and start touching yourself until your penis gets hard or your vagina gets wet. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ 3) 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐦𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐛𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠. Stroke your penis, stimulate your clitoris, or whatever else you know can make you come.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ 4) 𝗪𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞, 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐩 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐦𝐮𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧. Take your hands away or slow down your movements. Take deep breaths or open your eyes, if you need.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ 5) 𝐆𝐨 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐧 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐨𝐫 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐠𝐨𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐞𝐱𝐜𝐢𝐭𝐞𝐝. Take note of how your body changes: Do you feel tenser? More excited? Sweating or shaking more? ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ 6) 𝐒𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐭𝐨𝐮𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧, 𝐨𝐫 𝐦𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐛𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫. After your break, repeat steps 1–3 again. Do this until you feel ready to orgasm. ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ 7) 𝐋𝐞𝐭 𝐢𝐭 𝐠𝐨! 𝐀𝐥𝐥𝐨𝐰 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟 𝐭𝐨 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐡 𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐚𝐬𝐦. You might notice your orgasm lasts longer or feels more intense. Pay close attention to the feeling and see if edging made any difference in how much pleasure you feel.⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ For additional info, see the link in my bio!⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ~Mia⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ Image @pinterest ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ ⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣ #edging #pleasure #LGBTQ #sextherapy #therapy #instamood #selfcare #radicalselflove #gay #queer #sexeducation